Get Anyone Do Anything
To be liked
Association with positive context
Pairing yourself with pleasurable stimuli another person will begin to associate you with this feeling. If you want to be liked by a person, try talking to him when he is in a good mood or excited about something.
Repeat exposure
The more you interact with someone, the more he or she will like you.
We like those who like us
You want to let your "target person" know that you like and respect him, if indeed you do.
What if he really doesn't like me at all?, he will eventually like you more than if he had liked you right from the beginning. Gradual liking is infinitely more effective than instantly becoming someone's best friend. To engage the law of reciprocal affection gradually, let it be known that you are fond of this person.
Like attracts like
It all comes down to the fact that we all want to be understood, and this powerful event has likely helped to shape the person into who she is today; hence this other person "knows and understands" what she is all about.
Make people feel good (about themselves)
Helping out
People dislike others more after doing them harm. In an attempt to reduce dissonance, reducing this inner conflict we rationalize our actions to remain consistent with our self-concept.
This works in reverse as well. We like someone more after doing something nice for him or her.
Make mistakes
The one who is confident and secure is the one who is apt to laugh at his own mistakes and is not afraid to let people know that he is human.
Keep smiling and radiate a positive attitude
Be attractive (to the other sex)
Arousal causes attraction
Anytime a person is aroused, such as with scary movies, amusement park rides, or even physical exercise, his arousal will in part be attributed to whomever he is with. The next time you see a couple who appears to be "aesthetically" mismatched, ask where they met. Chances are good that they met under circumstances where arousal was high...maybe at the gym or while one person (the better-looking of the two) was apprehensive, nervous, or excited about something.
Eye contact
Look her directly in the eyes when speaking and listening
How to Spot a False Alibi by Asking a Single Question
Let's say a woman suspected that her husband was not at the movies with his friends, as he said, but out with his secretary for a late night rendezvous. Introduce a made-up "fact" and then sees how he handles it. For instance she might say, "Oh, I heard that the traffic was all backed up because of a car accident right outside the theater." Now all she has to do is sit back and watch how he responds.
This is because her husband is faced with an obvious conundrum. If he wasn't at the movies, he doesn't know whether to acknowledge that there was an accident because there might not have been one. And if he says that there wasn't much traffic and there was, then she'll also know he wasn't really at the movies. But regardless of his answer, he will do the one thing that every liar does when confronted with conundrum: He will hesitate---deciding how to answer.
Spot bluffing
If a person is bluffing they usually overcompensate their reaction in trying to pretend what they intentions are. They might bet overly quickly, be overly confident. A person who is bluffing will always overcompensate to create the illusion that he is 100 percent behind his convictions.
Find out what people are really up to
For instance let's say that a woman suspects her husband of having an affair with his secretary. Casually, maybe over dinner, she would say, "Gee, you know what, honey? My boss, Jim, I think he may be having an affair with his secretary." Now she simply observes his reaction. If he asks questions and becomes interested in the conversation she can be reasonably sure that he's not doing the same thing. But if he becomes very uncomfortable and looks to change the subject, then it's likely he's engaged in a similar behavior. And she will notice this immediate shift in his demeanor and attitude.
You're not sure if your coworker really likes your idea for a new marketing campaign, even though she says that she does.
Q: Do you like the concept for my new idea?
A: Sure. It's very original.
Q: Well, what would it take for you to love the idea?
Example II
You want to know if your son is looking forward to going to camp this summer.
Q: Are you excited about camp next month?
A: Yeah. It'll be fun.
Q: What would it take for you to be really excited about going?
Convince someone of an idea
Point out how your idea prevents negative consequences rather than what to gain
Try to point out how the idea is consistent with the thinking of the other person
Emotions are more important than logic in persuasion (logic is used to justify the decision)
Show excitement for the new idea.
Get people to follow-though no their commitments
Using phrases such as "You're the kind of person who..."; "You've always impressed me with your ability to..."; or "I've always liked the fact that you..." invokes the powerful psychological law of internal consistency.
When you initially ask for the favor, hit as many of these five points as you can: (a) Get him to say it; (b) get a specific time frame; (c) develop a sense of obligation; (d) engage his conscience; and (e) have him tell you how things will unfold.
• Then end the conversation with a firm verbal confirmation and a simple phrase such as, "So I'll see you next Saturday, right?"
• Finally, as the day approaches let him know that you appreciate that he's someone who really follows through and/or that you are glad that he knows the true value of friendship/responsibility/loyalty---whichever best applies.